After Divorce
“Mental health problems don’t define who you are. They are something you experience.
You walk in the rain and you feel the rain, but you are not the rain.”
– Matt Haig
It can be hard to accept that it’s over.
The cycle of conflict is still with you. It occupies your thoughts – and it’s hard to sort through the anger, confusion, blame, and guilt.
Sleep is challenging as your thoughts swim and swirl in your head. You wake up as exhausted as you felt when your head hit the pillow. This pain is always there. You want to let yourself feel good again, but it’s overwhelming.
When you start to feel you’ve outsmarted the grief and loss you feel, or even better, to heal once and for all, those feelings sneak back and take you down like a massive tidal wave.
You don’t like this version of yourself.
You want to see yourself as fair and reasonable, but the thoughts and feelings that run through your head are not who you want to be.
Sometimes, the anger and hurt feel bottomless, making you feel like they could swallow you whole.
While dealing with the grief, you still have to take care of business, the kids, and yourself, but keeping the feelings from running rampant in parts of your life you want to protect is hard.
Your face shows anger, shame, betrayal, and fear.
The vulnerability you feel is hard to describe. The dissolution of a marriage means that your whole life is falling apart in a way that is physical, spiritual, financial, and legal.
When you must make big decisions requiring a clear head, emotions flood your mind and cloud your judgment.
You want to be fair, but you have heard so many horror stories and seen so many people crash their lives on these rocks.
You want to do the right thing, but thinking straight is hard.
Let me help you find your path through the confusion.
If you were to imagine yourself six months in the future, looking back to now, how would you want to feel about the way you handled this situation?
Let’s face it; there is no way forward without some pain. The question is, can you do what you need to do in the best way possible? Can you look back on this process without regret?
Let me help you find a way. Reach out now for guidance, and we’ll schedule your free 15-minute consultation: (509) 220-1564.